Why doesn't Baba come, why did you forget that I exist, why did you never visit me, now I have grown to understand many things and... | Life Stories
Përse Babë nuk vjen, përse më harrove që ekzistoj, përse asnjëherë nuk më vizitove,tash jam rritur për të kuptuar shumë gjëra dhe...

Why doesn’t Baba come, why did you forget that I exist, why did you never visit me, now I have grown to understand many things and…

The first child for every parent should be the first joy, the GREATEST, incomparable to anything in life… the first love for that creature that is your blood, a part of you. The first child is the fruit of the love of two partners. But even when they stop loving, that child remains. It is completely understandable that he should be loved, even when the parents separate each in their own direction, on their own way… He should be loved even more so that he does not feel the separation, boredom… Some parents may not understand this or simply they forgot their child, I don’t know with what conscience, but they certainly don’t have any conscience. The love for the child is expressed with the trembling of the heart towards him while he is still small, but also when he grows up.. with a lot of time and care that should be given to him.. with care and a smile to hold his hand while he takes his first steps … So that you remember the moments of your childhood, which when you grow up you will recall with a smile… I, apart from the memories with my mother, aunt and grandmother, I have nothing to remember about you! You, even though you lived a few months in my life, it is the same as if you had never existed… you have not left any memory in my heart, I have no event, in which I can remember that sometimes in my childhood I lived with Dad… I don’t even remember what you did, even though they say you are a hairdresser, but you never cut my hair! I think you know how to swim in the water, but as a parent you never learned to “swim”.. here you sank, even in the smallest depth. Maybe you have achieved a lot in your life, but you didn’t think to use your 5 minutes… I’m sorry, I gave you more than 5 minutes, but your conscience didn’t work… Now go swimming and ask somewhere if there is a pharmacy that they sell conscience, buy it, and get well.. maybe you will manage to get well!!! My mother throughout my childhood was two in one… both mother and father! And to tell you the truth, she is a better “swimmer” than you… she “swims” in all waters without showing fatigue, difficulty… Nothing seems difficult to her!!! Look at my friends who have separated parents, their fathers come and take them to school by car, walk them to shopping, to lunch, to the doctor and everywhere else, and you??? My mother has to leave work to pick me up from school, she doesn’t find this difficult, but on the contrary she enjoys it! Back to the topic… Love for a child is not shown in minutes through social networks like “Tango”, nor through cameras, just to say that you have seen me… In this letter I would like to greet all the “fathers” who have abandoned their children, hurt them, forgot them and simply gave them pain in their hearts. They made him not feel the word “father”. For me this word is distant, foreign, unknown! You don’t become a father just by raising a child and bragging about taking care of him materially… until that child cries and is upset that everyone wished him a happy birthday, only his father didn’t! You are not a father if you do not express the right love, care and presence in his growth, the development of his childhood. As long as you have a son, in your eyes he should act as a father, a hero, his protector, a man who is a parent, closest friend and supporter. The one who will always protect him from everything and give him advice… I can’t see anything in your eyes, because those eyes are distant and unknown to me. I am sorry to tell you that even though I suffered for you, now I feel nothing more… only regret, but not for me, but for you! You are pitiful, even that much!!! Every child would want a dad close to him to feel security and a strong hug… to know that every time there will be a man who will protect him, support him… and give him the proper care as a parent!! Many times I am sorry that I thought about you, that I shed tears for you, that it is not worth shedding even a drop of tears! If you wanted to come and see me, if you had a heart and a soul, and a piece of conscience, you would have come many times by now, regardless of the distance between us… you would look for me and visit me! My mother is not a monster, she would allow, as she allowed your mother and father to visit me… Parents do everything for their children! As my mother says: “I do everything for my son, even the impossible I make possible, and there is no problem that I cannot solve”. For that, my mother is a warrior, a heroine, with whom I overcome every problem I have…! The woman I will always be proud to have as a MOTHER!!! Many times I asked why you don’t come, why you forgot that I exist, why you never visited me??? But time heals everything. But, I don’t wait for you as I have waited for you until now, now I have grown to understand many things. Even though a lot of time has passed, even though you still remember me as a baby, one day, maybe you’ll meet me by chance and when you look at me, you’ll realize what you’ve lost chasing after money, interest, useless things and after all that is transitory in this world…! Until you break up and get married again with a big wedding and have another child, I feel responsible for that child as a big brother… I don’t know why, but I know and feel that if you did it to me, you will do it to other children too… You are just an example of a man, who’s only success in his life is that he successfully made me and forgot me!!! What kind of disastrous person are you?! It’s useless that you have all that material wealth, all the money you have and that you spend on useless things, and you never came to visit your son that you promised him many times that you would come!!! Now, even if you give me the whole world, it’s not worth it… it’s in vain! Now I don’t need you and I don’t want to meet you… I hope this letter will hurt all the so-called “fathers” who have forgotten their children! I wish you warmth in their souls, conscience that does not fade, and love for their children who created them.. as well as responsibility that is necessary for parents!!!